The Conscious Griever Program
Do you feel untethered and out to sea in your grief. Not sure which way is up.
You’re functioning in the day to day, from the outside people think you’re fine, the inside, your soul is telling a different story, your identity has changed, but to what?
You might feel unheard in your grief by your family and friends, maybe even that your grief is less than theirs, and they have moved on and seem “fine”.
It’s your time to be seen, to have your stories heard, even all the bits you are scared of, or scared of sharing. I’m your compassionate witness that will sit with you, not try and change your experience, it’s your truth.
You get to release, to exhale, and find you.
I’ve walked through the grief process several times, it looked different with each loss. Your loss, each one, if you have multiple, will look different from each one, and from mine, we are all unique. The underlying currents will have familiarity to them, someone important to you, is longer here, and you did not agree to that change.
Lisa, my older sister by 18 months, and only sister, was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma in 2016, an incurable cancer, she was told on the long side she had 6 years.
I was thrust into anticipatory grief, the grief where the person is still present.
In the early days of my sister’s diagnosis, all that went through my mind was that I would be an orphan in 10 years, Lisa had a 6 year prognosis and my Mum was aging, having already outlived her parents (sorry Mum).
Each time I looked in the mirror, what looked back at me was, “you come from a small immediate family…you’ll be alone, an orphan in 10 years.”
Over the next couple of years that followed Lisa’s diagnosis I came to the realization that would not be true. I would always be a sibling, Lisa was and would always have lived, and been my older sister. My Mum as well will always be my Mum, and I discredited her. she has so many years left to live fully and be my Mum, and therefore I will always be a daughter. I still speak of my grandparents as my grandparents and me as their granddaughter, and they have both been passed for 30 plus years. Those relationships will always be, them no longer physically being in my presence does not change that. I am still my beloved dog-Maggie’s parent, and will always be.
What I did was make a conscious decision. I would be fully present with Lisa for every minute of those years we had left, continuing to be the siblings we were, deepening our relationship, and grieving with her for what she would not have, what I, and what we would not have.
From that decision point, my outlook on life changed. My want’s, values and priorities took on different flavors. I found a mentor and training to add the educational side to my experience grief experience, and compliment my life coach training.
This is what healing looked like for me, and is possible for each of us. it will look different for each of us, as our lives and grief is unique to us. You are allowed to feel joy again, smile and have your flavor of healing and growth.
It's about when it's your time to put some focus there and have a curiosity for what could be.
You’ll find you, the you after your profound loss and change
Your values, want’s, priorities and joy
My experience with grief is why I am so passionate about serving others and being their witness and guide through the grief process. This is what my post-traumatic growth looks like.
That’s why I created this program so that I could take you on a journey, provide you with the space to have your story witnessed, provide a safe container for your grief, and a partner on this journey. And…if you are anything like me, give you permission to be you.
The Conscious Griever Coaching Program
Your world has been shaken up, your identity has changed, you want to find you, the new you whilst honoring your loved one, through the grief process
Witnessing
We work from what your experience is, to build an environment where you are okay inside and out, with a new normal that feels like home, where you are consciously choosing your life that is authentic to you inside and out, and see the hope, joy and beauty of the present and future, whilst honoring the past.
I am your partner, witnessing your story as you share your experience. I will feel your emotions with you, without you needing to worry about caring for me, I’ll be walking alongside you.
The Conscious Griever Coaching Program
Each session will be split into two parts, the start of the session we will chat about what is occurring for you in the now. Then we will discuss tools & techniques that will support you, building on each area over the course of the program. And as we work through the program we will discuss the tools & techniques we spoke of in prior weeks, how they are working for you, where we need to refine.
The BAKE framework comprises of. Beginnings, Awareness, Kindle and Evolve. We will be responsive to your needs and where you need to focus, as the grief journey looks different for each person.
What is the BAKE framework:
Beginnings This is where you are now, on day 1 of working together. Straightaway I will start sharing tools and techniques with you to bring you some ease
Awareness This is about gaining awareness and understanding of what is occurring within you, and walking into the past to help understand the now
Kindle This is about lighting a fire in you, this might be the tiniest of a spark, like the light of a firefly, to a full on campfire. This is where we start to look at what life can look like bringing your person's soul and your experience along with you
Evolve This is where we look at what you want, what you value, and how to build the relationships and environment for that to occur
When BAKE is the place for you to start your journey with me….
Grief is the end of something by choice or not. The passing of a person, pet, a chapter change in your journey, a course change, life circumstance change.
Your change occurred in the last few months, years and decades, when it’s time to walk the path, its time.
You are ready to move out of the waiting room
You are ready to walk into the grief to understand it, and want to build something where you can honor and carry your loved ones relationship and past chapters with you
You want a partner supporting you in doing it your way, building your trust in your intuition, bringing clarity as you navigate the later phases of the grief journey
On the outside you look like you are “fine”, you are functioning and showing up in life, inside you do not feel these things.
Your person has received a terminal diagnosis, and you want to show up as the best version of you, for them, and yourself as it feels like love. This was me, this is anticipatory grief.
When BAKE is not the place for you to start….
Your person just passed away in the last few weeks, or your life changed just occurred
You are not ready or do not want to explore your story and experience
You are curled up with the duvet, blankets, all the comforting fluffy items the majority of the time
You can only see things through your perspective, and not open to looking at things wider
All of these things are normal in early grief, be kind to yourself, your time will come
Program Price $1980
Program Launch Price $960
Enrollment
The program is 12 sessions, held weekly. Holidays and other things occur for both you and I, the 12 sessions need to be completed over a 16-week period.
From our initial introductory conversation, we will schedule the first session within a week, finding a day and time that works on a recurring basis. I’ll send you a meeting invite with the video meeting link. I’ll provide handouts reviewing the tools & techniques we cover, and sometimes a few others.
If you are feeling unseen, your grief and experience is not being heard, I will hear you, show you how you can see yourself, and have a renewed understanding of what is occurring. See glimmers in life, and a vision for the life you can and will have, bringing your persons along with you.